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rằng anh em phải bỏ cách ăn nết ở ngày trước, thoát lốt người cũ là người bị hư hỏng bởi tư dục dỗ dành,
Ê-phê-sô 4:22
Because of the fallen nature of man, marriage conflict is a fact of life, even for believers in Christ. Loving communication doesn’t come naturally or easily to anyone. For unbelievers, remedy for conflicts is difficult because without Christ humans do not have the capacity for unselfish love (Ephesians 4:22-32). Christians, however, have the Bible for instructions in relationships. Applying biblical principles to relationships will enable us to handle marriage conflict most effectively.
Hỡi kẻ làm vợ, phải vâng phục chồng mình như vâng phục Chúa,
Ê-phê-sô 5:22
The first and most important principle in resolving conflict in relationships, especially in marriage, is to love one another as Christ has loved us (John 13:34) and gave Himself for us. Ephesians 5:21—6:4 describes relationships within families: we are to submit to one another in love and put the needs of others ahead of our own. This is especially true in marriage where the husband is to love his wife as Christ loved the church and care for her as he cares for his own body. In turn, a wife is to submit to her husband and respect him (Ephesians 5:22–33).
This would seem to be a fairly simple directive except for the natural tendency of humans to be reactive in relationships, rather than proactive. Wives are usually eager to submit to husbands who love them as Christ loved the church, and husbands are usually more than willing to love wives who respect and submit to them. Therein lies the problem. Each is waiting for the other to make the first move. But God’s commands for husbands and wives are not conditional. Submission is not contingent upon love, and love is not contingent upon respect. Taking the first step in obedience, regardless of the actions of the other, goes a long way to breaking down the conflict and establishing new patterns of behavior.
Lời nói anh em phải có ân hậu theo luôn, và nêm thêm muối, hầu cho anh em biết nên đối đáp mỗi người là thể nào.
Cô-lô-se 4:6
With that in mind, when marriage conflict arises the first step is self-examination (2 Corinthians 13:5). After we have brought our concerns to the Lord and been honest with ourselves about our own failures or selfish desires, then we can approach others with our concerns. Furthermore, God designed believers to meet each other’s needs peacefully (Colossians 3:15). We all need grace for our own mistakes and we must have grace for others when communicating our needs and concerns (Colossians 4:6).
Communicating truth in love is the key to being heard because only when we communicate to others their value in our eyes will they be able to accept hard truths (Ephesians 4:15). People who feel attacked and criticized will only become defensive and at that point, communication inevitably breaks down. Conversely, people who feel we care about them and want good things for them will trust us to communicate with them in love and concern for their welfare. So speaking the truth in love is absolutely essential for conflict resolution. This is particularly true in marriage, where continuous close contact with a spouse who has disappointed us often brings out the worst in us. Hurt feelings produce harsh words which, in turn, produce more hurt feelings. Practicing the discipline of thinking carefully and praying before we speak can break this vicious cycle. Godly communication can be put in simple terms by remembering to treat others the way we want to be treated (Luke 6:31). God said blessed are the peacemakers, and that is always the goal for Christians (Matthew 5:9).
There are many aspects to relationships, conflict, and communication, and the Bible is full of wisdom for godly living. Here are specific scriptural commands of how we ought to treat one another:
To solve marriage conflict, we must:
Be at peace with one another - Mark 9:50
Love one another - John 13:34; Romans 12:10; 1 Peter 4:8; 1 John 3:11, 23; 4:7, 11, 12
Build up one another - Romans 14:19; Ephesians 4:12; 1 Thessalonians 5:11
Be of the same mind toward one another - Romans 12:16
Give preference to one another - Romans 12:10
Greet one another - Romans 16:16
Esteem others as better than yourself - Philippians 2:3
Serve one another - Galatians 5:13
Receive one another - Romans 15:7
Be devoted to one another - Romans 12:10
Rejoice or weep with one another - Romans 12:15
Admonish one another - Romans 15:14; Colossians 3:16
Care for one another - 1 Corinthians 12:25
Show tolerance toward one another - Romans 15:1-5; Ephesians 4:2; Colossians 3:13
Be kind and forgiving to one another - Ephesians 4:32; Colossians 3:13
Submit to one another - Romans 12:10; Ephesians 5:21; 1 Peter 5:5
Comfort one another - 1 Thessalonians 4:18
Encourage one another - 1 Thessalonians 5:11; Hebrews 3:13
Be compassionate with one another - 1 Peter 3:8
Pray for one another - James 5:16
Confess your faults to one another - James 5:16
Accept one another - Romans 14:1; 15:7
To solve marriage conflict, we must not:
Be proud against each other - 1 Corinthians 4:6
Judge one another - Romans 12:16
Lie to one another - Colossians 3:9
Be partial with one another - 1 Timothy 5:21
Provoke or envy one another - Galatians 5:26
Lust after one another - Romans 1:27
Hate one another - Titus 3:3
Take one another to court - 1 Corinthians 6:1-7
Use each other - Galatians 5:15
* Kinh Thánh Tham Khảo:
Ê-phê-sô 4:22 - rằng anh em phải bỏ cách ăn nết ở ngày trước, thoát lốt người cũ là người bị hư hỏng bởi tư dục dỗ dành,
Ê-phê-sô 5:22 - Hỡi kẻ làm vợ, phải vâng phục chồng mình như vâng phục Chúa,
Cô-lô-se 4:6 - Lời nói anh em phải có ân hậu theo luôn, và nêm thêm muối, hầu cho anh em biết nên đối đáp mỗi người là thể nào.
Ma-thi-ơ 5:9 - Phước cho những kẻ làm cho người hòa thuận, vì sẽ được gọi là con Đức Chúa Trời!
Mác 9:50 - Muối là vật tốt, nhưng nếu muối mất mặn đi, thì lấy chi làm cho mặn lại được? 9-51 Các ngươi phải có muối trong lòng mình, lại phải hòa thuận cùng nhau.
I Giăng 3:11 - Vả, lời rao truyền mà các con đã nghe từ lúc ban đầu, ấy là chúng ta phải yêu thương lẫn nhau.
I Tê-sa-lô-ni-ca 5:11 - Vậy thì anh em hãy khuyên bảo nhau, gây dựng cho nhau, như anh em vẫn thường làm.
Rô-ma 12:16 - Trong vòng anh em phải ở cho hiệp ý nhau; đừng ước ao sự cao sang, nhưng phải ưa thích sự khiêm nhượng. Chớ cho mình là khôn ngoan.
Rô-ma 12:10 - Hãy lấy lòng yêu thương mềm mại mà yêu nhau như anh em; hãy lấy lẽ kính nhường nhau.
Rô-ma 16:16 - Anh em hãy lấy cái hôn thánh mà chào nhau. Hết thảy các Hội thánh của Đấng Christ chào anh em.

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